The Unraveling of a Loveless Heart
There is a 20 second moment in Jason Reitman’s “Young Adult” that just floored me. Here is the story of a High School Prom Queen — Mavis Gary (Charlize Theron) – revisiting her hometown on a targeted mission to reclaim her old boyfriend. She walks through her parents’ house and sees a large wedding photo. I thought it was a photo of her parents; her mother looks just like her? But, no, it is her own wedding. Not only do her parents keep the photo, but her father casually praises her ex-husband. I don’t remember how long she’s been divorced, but I was devastated just listening to his comments. Any normal parent would break his or her back to provide the child with every benefit; any child knows this. Still, the child also needs to hear the “I love you” and the “I value you” and the “I’m proud of you.” But, when the child’s ears hear, “I like your ex-spouse,” from the two people she needs validation from, they are saying, “I like your ex-spouse, though he is worth nothing compared to you.” What she instead hears is, “You’re no good. You failed. I’m siding with him.”